Anti Depressants, BPD, dating, depression, updates

(Another) Life Update

I'm genuinely surprised it's been over a year since I last wrote a post! So naturally I don't know where to start. I suppose it'll be a life update. Since I last posted (June 2021), I became homeless. I still am, technically, but after 9 months in a council hostel I'm finally in a 1… Continue reading (Another) Life Update


10 Things I’ve Learned About Dating at 25: Part 1 1. Some men prefer to communicate through silence Here I'm referring specifically to the phenomenon of being "left on read". I read somewhere recently that "silence is also an answer". Maybe they lost their phone, maybe they didn't see the notification, maybe they "don't use this app very much" - and maybe for… Continue reading 10 Things I’ve Learned About Dating at 25: Part 1

dating, depression, Thinkpiece

Dating With Depression? Today I want to discuss the idea that you should wait until you're in a "good place" before you enter into relationship with someone else, and the degree to which this is an ableist perspective in the context of mental illness. I'm fairly happy being single at the moment. I feel as if… Continue reading Dating With Depression?

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A Dreamless Codeine Sleep

I watched a brilliant film last night called "Call Me By Your Name" about a seventeen-year-old boy and a man in his twenties who fall in love over the course of a summer. It's one of the most beautiful love stories I've ever seen. It captures the headiness, the intoxication, the tenderness, the pain, the… Continue reading A Dreamless Codeine Sleep

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“Why Are You Single?”: The Bizarre Idealisation of Relationships

Being in a relationship is something of a security blanket for many people. Like an "at least I'm not alone" sort of thing. The presence of a significant other can absolutely add value to our lives and provide a form of support through adversity; but it's simply irrational to regard anyone in a relationship as… Continue reading “Why Are You Single?”: The Bizarre Idealisation of Relationships

Self Care, self love, self reliance, spirituality, Uncategorized

✨ The Magic Of Solitude ✨

Today has been, so far, maybe the best day of this year. Maybe I'm overcompensating because I was so recently broken up with and, of course, I had plenty of great times with him this year before that happened. But I have always felt that the happiness experienced in solitude has a magic to it… Continue reading ✨ The Magic Of Solitude ✨

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Thoughts On… Love, Reluctance + Attachment Styles

There's a naïvety to those skeptical about love - those who have perhaps had one bad experience, one bad heartbreak and are now thoroughly bitter and afraid of it. I don't think I count myself as one of them, I've just become increasingly aware of my own behaviours in romantic relationships and the parts I've… Continue reading Thoughts On… Love, Reluctance + Attachment Styles

Self Forgiveness

Thoughts On… An Attempt At Self Forgiveness + Bodhichitta

Today's post will be a short one. Before I wrote this, I came across a fantastic photographer whose photos I'd like to insert throughout this post. ❤ Two weeks ago, I set a couple of intentions in order to practice self forgiveness - to practice loving self-talk and to write about feelings of guilt. I… Continue reading Thoughts On… An Attempt At Self Forgiveness + Bodhichitta

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Thoughts On… Self Reliance

I've been thinking about what self reliance means - more specifically, can someone be in a relationship, receive counselling and still be self-reliant? I'd like to explore the idea of counselling first. I started receiving counselling - not for the first time - a little over 3 weeks ago. I'd been intending to do this… Continue reading Thoughts On… Self Reliance