I'm genuinely surprised it's been over a year since I last wrote a post! So naturally I don't know where to start. I suppose it'll be a life update. Since I last posted (June 2021), I became homeless. I still am, technically, but after 9 months in a council hostel I'm finally in a 1… Continue reading (Another) Life Update
Tag: love
10 Things I’ve Learned About Dating at 25: Part 1
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QU_1o5j2PhU https://64.media.tumblr.com/faa83adcd8e0a334cc8f7eacacdb2d65/tumblr_pd80b1Dpqr1xv3l02o1_640.gif 1. Some men prefer to communicate through silence Here I'm referring specifically to the phenomenon of being "left on read". I read somewhere recently that "silence is also an answer". Maybe they lost their phone, maybe they didn't see the notification, maybe they "don't use this app very much" - and maybe for… Continue reading 10 Things I’ve Learned About Dating at 25: Part 1
Dating With Depression?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KTDHobyS_DQ&ab_channel=HomeworkRadio Today I want to discuss the idea that you should wait until you're in a "good place" before you enter into relationship with someone else, and the degree to which this is an ableist perspective in the context of mental illness. https://i.pinimg.com/originals/d6/13/2b/d6132b67bed66308b8b5d40206996799.gif I'm fairly happy being single at the moment. I feel as if… Continue reading Dating With Depression?
A Dreamless Codeine Sleep
I watched a brilliant film last night called "Call Me By Your Name" about a seventeen-year-old boy and a man in his twenties who fall in love over the course of a summer. It's one of the most beautiful love stories I've ever seen. It captures the headiness, the intoxication, the tenderness, the pain, the… Continue reading A Dreamless Codeine Sleep
“Why Are You Single?”: The Bizarre Idealisation of Relationships
Being in a relationship is something of a security blanket for many people. Like an "at least I'm not alone" sort of thing. The presence of a significant other can absolutely add value to our lives and provide a form of support through adversity; but it's simply irrational to regard anyone in a relationship as… Continue reading “Why Are You Single?”: The Bizarre Idealisation of Relationships
✨ The Magic Of Solitude ✨
Today has been, so far, maybe the best day of this year. Maybe I'm overcompensating because I was so recently broken up with and, of course, I had plenty of great times with him this year before that happened. But I have always felt that the happiness experienced in solitude has a magic to it… Continue reading ✨ The Magic Of Solitude ✨
Breakups + Self-Care 💔
What I say: I love and accept myself exactly as I am I approve of myself My heart has boundless strength I am brave to love It is safe to be vulnerable What I do: Cry. Howl. Wail (currently trying not to though as I'm in a coffee shop). Write songs (allowing crying breaks, of… Continue reading Breakups + Self-Care 💔
Thoughts On… Love, Reluctance + Attachment Styles
There's a naïvety to those skeptical about love - those who have perhaps had one bad experience, one bad heartbreak and are now thoroughly bitter and afraid of it. I don't think I count myself as one of them, I've just become increasingly aware of my own behaviours in romantic relationships and the parts I've… Continue reading Thoughts On… Love, Reluctance + Attachment Styles
Thoughts On… An Attempt At Self Forgiveness + Bodhichitta
Today's post will be a short one. Before I wrote this, I came across a fantastic photographer whose photos I'd like to insert throughout this post. ❤ Two weeks ago, I set a couple of intentions in order to practice self forgiveness - to practice loving self-talk and to write about feelings of guilt. I… Continue reading Thoughts On… An Attempt At Self Forgiveness + Bodhichitta
Thoughts On… Self Reliance
I've been thinking about what self reliance means - more specifically, can someone be in a relationship, receive counselling and still be self-reliant? I'd like to explore the idea of counselling first. I started receiving counselling - not for the first time - a little over 3 weeks ago. I'd been intending to do this… Continue reading Thoughts On… Self Reliance
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