journalling, Thoughts On...

On Loneliness "Don't date someone just because you're lonely," said my last fling when I ended things between us. Was the sheer emptiness of my life that obvious? I'd just become homeless a couple of months prior, so perhaps I was clinging to him out of despair and confusion. It's not like we were living together,… Continue reading On Loneliness

emotional abuse, journalling, self love, Self Responsibility, spirituality, Uncategorized

Shadow Work + God-Consciousness

Something I've been struggling with a lot lately is social media. And just my phone in general. I'm finding it veeeeery difficult to limit my usage and I feel like my third eye is so clouded at the moment. Round about the new moon in Cancer a few weeks ago, I did have a very… Continue reading Shadow Work + God-Consciousness

counselling, emotional abuse, enmeshment

🌫Power Roles + Loneliness🌫

The idea of power roles came up in my counselling session today. I was talking about the ongoing difficulty of maintaining boundaries in the relationship with my Dad. For those who have read quite a few of my blog posts (thank you!), you might be aware of the situation with my Dad; but for those… Continue reading 🌫Power Roles + Loneliness🌫

enmeshment, Thoughts On...

Thoughts On… Five Years Of Emotional Separation

Some things in life do not require constant practice to maintain a base level of skill; riding a bike, for example. Visiting my Dad again after having not done so for 5 years was like this. Except it was as if I had the experience of countless bloody falls and grazes to remind me to… Continue reading Thoughts On… Five Years Of Emotional Separation


Enmeshment – Seductive Behaviour

I've wanted to write this post for a while. I said I would write about the sexually-charged aspect of enmeshment when I wrote my first post on this topic - Enmeshment + Codependency: A Tangled Web - but it's difficult because I'm embarrassed and ashamed. Is it possible to isolate the idea of sexuality from the term… Continue reading Enmeshment – Seductive Behaviour

enmeshment, Uncategorized

Enmeshment + Codependency: A Tangled Web

I've touched on this topic briefly in a couple of blog posts but haven't attempted to go into much detail because enmeshment and codependency are very complex concepts. Explaining it is even more complex - especially if the people you are sharing this with have never gone through it themselves. That's not to undermine the… Continue reading Enmeshment + Codependency: A Tangled Web

self reliance, Thoughts On...

Thoughts On… Self Reliance

I've been thinking about what self reliance means - more specifically, can someone be in a relationship, receive counselling and still be self-reliant? I'd like to explore the idea of counselling first. I started receiving counselling - not for the first time - a little over 3 weeks ago. I'd been intending to do this… Continue reading Thoughts On… Self Reliance

self reliance, Setting Intentions

Self Reliance – Setting Intentions

"Self reliance is about making a commitment to becoming less dependent on others, practically and emotionally, and to building up our sense of self confidence and self-competence. It may mean learning a new skill or attending a course for example, or beginning to grow out of a childlike relationship with a parental figure." - Dr… Continue reading Self Reliance – Setting Intentions