https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nZb-ITdDQXQ&ab_channel=HomeworkRadio "Don't date someone just because you're lonely," said my last fling when I ended things between us. Was the sheer emptiness of my life that obvious? I'd just become homeless a couple of months prior, so perhaps I was clinging to him out of despair and confusion. It's not like we were living together,… Continue reading On Loneliness
Tag: codependency
Shadow Work + God-Consciousness
Something I've been struggling with a lot lately is social media. And just my phone in general. I'm finding it veeeeery difficult to limit my usage and I feel like my third eye is so clouded at the moment. Round about the new moon in Cancer a few weeks ago, I did have a very… Continue reading Shadow Work + God-Consciousness
🌫Power Roles + Loneliness🌫
The idea of power roles came up in my counselling session today. I was talking about the ongoing difficulty of maintaining boundaries in the relationship with my Dad. For those who have read quite a few of my blog posts (thank you!), you might be aware of the situation with my Dad; but for those… Continue reading 🌫Power Roles + Loneliness🌫
Thoughts On… Five Years Of Emotional Separation
Some things in life do not require constant practice to maintain a base level of skill; riding a bike, for example. Visiting my Dad again after having not done so for 5 years was like this. Except it was as if I had the experience of countless bloody falls and grazes to remind me to… Continue reading Thoughts On… Five Years Of Emotional Separation
Enmeshment – Seductive Behaviour
I've wanted to write this post for a while. I said I would write about the sexually-charged aspect of enmeshment when I wrote my first post on this topic - Enmeshment + Codependency: A Tangled Web - but it's difficult because I'm embarrassed and ashamed. Is it possible to isolate the idea of sexuality from the term… Continue reading Enmeshment – Seductive Behaviour
Enmeshment + Codependency: A Tangled Web
I've touched on this topic briefly in a couple of blog posts but haven't attempted to go into much detail because enmeshment and codependency are very complex concepts. Explaining it is even more complex - especially if the people you are sharing this with have never gone through it themselves. That's not to undermine the… Continue reading Enmeshment + Codependency: A Tangled Web
Thoughts On… Self Reliance
I've been thinking about what self reliance means - more specifically, can someone be in a relationship, receive counselling and still be self-reliant? I'd like to explore the idea of counselling first. I started receiving counselling - not for the first time - a little over 3 weeks ago. I'd been intending to do this… Continue reading Thoughts On… Self Reliance
Self Reliance – Setting Intentions
"Self reliance is about making a commitment to becoming less dependent on others, practically and emotionally, and to building up our sense of self confidence and self-competence. It may mean learning a new skill or attending a course for example, or beginning to grow out of a childlike relationship with a parental figure." - Dr… Continue reading Self Reliance – Setting Intentions
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