The importance of not coming off "desperate" or "clingy" cannot be overstated, it would seem, when it comes to dating. And for good reason. It can be off-putting, alarming even, for someone to respond instantaneously to every message you send them and to be perpetually agreeable and pliable. Also, venting your off-base frustrations with them… Continue reading Thoughts On…Dating Apps + A Poem
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“Why Are You Single?”: The Bizarre Idealisation of Relationships
Being in a relationship is something of a security blanket for many people. Like an "at least I'm not alone" sort of thing. The presence of a significant other can absolutely add value to our lives and provide a form of support through adversity; but it's simply irrational to regard anyone in a relationship as… Continue reading “Why Are You Single?”: The Bizarre Idealisation of Relationships
On Feeling Unwanted
So this has been the main complex rearing its head for me over the past few weeks. Something happens, I experience emotional overwhelm and when I drill right down into it - I feel unwanted. Disposed of. Refused. Rejected. It doesn't matter if it's to do with the timeframe in which someone has or hasn't… Continue reading On Feeling Unwanted
Exaltation + Indifference: Both Are Okay
On Saturday evening, I finished work after a fairly busy day (it's always busier towards the end of the day, too, because of all the cleaning that needs done, so we typically end it feeling a bit frenzied) and felt somewhat at a loss. Mothers talk about "empty nest syndrome", when they are forced to… Continue reading Exaltation + Indifference: Both Are Okay
An Honest Talk About Attention + Validation
An unexpected insight came up in a therapy session a few weeks back. I was talking about the attention that naturally comes with performing and showcasing my essence and vulnerability on a stage. People take notice, approach you to talk about your set - buy you a drink, even. Mostly guys. I said to my… Continue reading An Honest Talk About Attention + Validation
Thoughts On… Abuse + Free Will
I had an exchange with a couple of people on an Instagram post the other day. The post was about controlling parents and it presented the idea that when we emotionally separate from controlling parents, their response can tell us whether they truly love us or if they just love the control they have over… Continue reading Thoughts On… Abuse + Free Will
Mourning The Lack Of An Idyllic Adolescence
I didn't realise I still carried so much pain with me around my experience of adolescence until a boy I used to see spoke about his. We were in his car, driving somewhere on a Sunday, I think, and a song came on his playlist that reminded him of being a teenager (see below). "I… Continue reading Mourning The Lack Of An Idyllic Adolescence
In Defence Of Letting Things Arise
Growing up alongside the internet has to be a very unique experience - one that is very far removed from the way my parents and others from their generation (born in the 50's and 60's) grew up. Having so much information at your immediate disposal is just the biggest luxury. But it can be a… Continue reading In Defence Of Letting Things Arise
Why I Won’t Give Up Junk Food: Healthy Eating + Elitism
In the past few years, in western society, I feel like we've seen a huge shift in consciousness take place surrounding health and wellness - more specifically with healthy eating. This is partly due to the luxury of the internet and having instant access to boundless information about nutrition, ethics etc. I myself follow a… Continue reading Why I Won’t Give Up Junk Food: Healthy Eating + Elitism
Thoughts On… Affirmations + Thought Control
The theory that thoughts create reality has become somewhat popular lately. The buzzwords 'affirmation' and 'manifestation' have been popping up everywhere. This current movement of people recognising themselves as creators of their own reality is intended to be an empowering one. But to what extent does this concept of 'mind-hacking' intersect with the idea of… Continue reading Thoughts On… Affirmations + Thought Control
